August 27, 1842 - March 5, 1862
buried Green-Wood Cemetery, Brooklyn, New YorkStamford Soldiers' Memorial 1869
Full text of "Stamford soldiers' memorials" - Internet Archives
Fairfield County CT Archives Obituaries - Starr, Grosvenor March 5, 1862
"GROSVENOR STARR, adjutant, 7th Conn. , son of Mrs. Henry B. Starr. Died at Tybee Island, March 5, 1862, after a sickness of five weeks. "Mr. Starr was at the breaking out of the war, a student at Yale. The idol of his classmates, who fondly watched his progress with warm anticipations of his future success, he was distinguished both for his scholarly attainments and his social qualities.
There is no need of many added words to tell what he was. The one title, a Christian soldier, covers all. At the age of fifteen, he girded himself with that heavenly armor, with which the soul encounters its unseen foes-the vows that he then renewed in confirmation. The emblems that were laid upon his coffin as it was borne by his sorrowing classmates to be laid before the altar, when spoken the confirming words of the last service, were his completed epitaph. Above his breast rested the wreath of spotless flowers. Upon the hero's sword, -the gift of his loving classmates,-was placed the cross.
The funeral of Mr. Starr was attended from St. Bartholomew's church New York City, and his remains lie in the family lot in Greenwood."